Some people feel like their story is a big pile of garbage. A rotting mess. Yet gentle tending and attention so often reveal the potential underneath, small buds waiting for the right condition to emerge and grow into something beautiful.
the importance of being rooted.
"To be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul." - Simone Weil
when the McDonald’s bathroom stall is the safest space to hide.
When you're triggered at McDonald's and need a safe space to go - there aren't many options available. Reflections on calming down in a bathroom stall.
if a tree is beautiful in winter, maybe you can be, too.
If trees can be beautiful in all the seasons, at times of productivity when buds are growing and leaves hanging, as well as when branches hang barren - I wonder if we too, could allow that same sense of permanence and brilliance and beauty to extend to ourselves, too.
on how unwanted love notes belong in the recycling bin.
My girl received love notes from boys at school. Seemingly trivial? Yet the response to these have the potential to set the course for how my daughter responds to male attention for the rest of her life. Read on for more.
the loneliness and the scream.
Sometimes we combat loneliness in seemingly strange ways. Thoughts from a Winnipeg counsellor as she reflects on song lyrics.
for the partner who thinks couples therapy is a bad idea.
What happens when one partner wants to go to therapy, and the other doesn't? Some thoughts for the partner who thinks therapy is a waste of time.
shame and the blood donor clinic.
Thoughts on how a recent trip to the blood donor clinic revealed the insidiousness of shame.
on how learning takes time.
We don't get good at things without learning the basics, and without practice. Yet we often expect ourselves to be proficient at the work of relationships with ourselves and others. Maybe treating ourselves like we would treat a kid learning how to read could be a new way to approach areas in which we struggle.
bored. lonely. disappointed. (aka: parenting goals)
Teaching our kids learn how to handle discomfort doesn't happen by accident. A fresh perspective on the value of hard and uncomfortable feelings, and the importance of developing discomfort tolerance skills.
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