In spite of having living parents, sometimes our need for safe and soft landing spaces still aren't met. This can leave folks identifying more closely with those whose parents have passed on.
the stories we tell ourselves.
The stories we tell ourselves aren't always rooted in fact.
the risks of getting well. [alternatively titled: it’s painful to watch people keep making ‘bad’ choices, but maybe they have a reason to stay stuck.]
There are emotional risks and consequences associated with every action or inaction, and sometimes these risks make staying in awful situations or staying locked into seemingly destructive behaviours the safer emotional choice.
mix matched families.
Thoughts on being an 'outlier' in your family. How family can embrace differences, and stronger connections can be built.
joy + sorrow and the why + how of suffering.
My preference in the face of suffering and hardship is to move from a why does this happen to a question of how. How will this experience shape me? How will I change or grow because of this? How do I respond to pain and suffering? How is this experience connecting me with humanity in new ways?
on being deeply seen and known.
Care doesn't need to be extravagant to be meaningful. Sometimes it's the little details that assure us that others know who we are, care about what matters to us, and take the time to remind us of that.
when your dad isn’t worth celebrating on Father’s Day.
Tomorrow may be a day intended to celebrate a very alive father in your life. But perhaps you have a dad who hasn't done the work of parenting in a way that warrants celebrating. Thoughts on the tension of engaging Father's Day when you have a disengaged dad.
the importance of being rooted.
"To be rooted is perhaps the most important and least recognized need of the human soul." - Simone Weil
on how unwanted love notes belong in the recycling bin.
My girl received love notes from boys at school. Seemingly trivial? Yet the response to these have the potential to set the course for how my daughter responds to male attention for the rest of her life. Read on for more.
Not everybody loves a new year. (Alternatively titled: marriage is so hard and lots of us want to quit. But please don’t throw the towel in just yet.)
So, how about this new year that's coming? Some people may be eagerly looking ahead, planning getaways, revelling in all that Christmas fun, and may be quite optimistic about the year ahead. Which is amazing. I am thrilled that this is your story. But in working as a therapist, I am confident that there are a lot of … Continue reading Not everybody loves a new year. (Alternatively titled: marriage is so hard and lots of us want to quit. But please don’t throw the towel in just yet.)