There are emotional risks and consequences associated with every action or inaction, and sometimes these risks make staying in awful situations or staying locked into seemingly destructive behaviours the safer emotional choice.
Instead of capacity pointing to that which we are able to do or achieve - we operate as though it is something we must achieve, or else we're somehow failing.
Christmas is prime time for comparing ourselves to others. How about we stop? Some thoughts on comparison and shame.
Happy, excited, nervous, sad, angry, silly, lonely...these aren't good or bad, just evidence that you are a feeling person.